Psychologists in their eternal wisdom have recently decided that adolescence doesn’t end at 18 as previously thought, but in fact 25.
So, what’s the deal? Are you effectively a child right up into your mid-twenties? Do you wake up on your 25th birthday full of maturity and wisdom?
Personally, I think I’ve regressed. When I was 19 I had a house, a fiance and a job earning pretty decent money. Now, at the grand old age of 29, I’m single, renting a bedroom, living on manageable (just about) money and studying for a degree. So, can you realistically put a time limit on when someone is classed as an “adult”?
I know lots of people who are younger than me, with children, mortgages and marriages and lots of people my age who are at university, living in shared accommodation and wouldn’t know what to do with a baby if it landed in their lap. Maturity, much like most things, is down to the individual. There are 18 year olds who are mentally older than some 25 year olds and 25 year olds who are mentally older than people in their 50s. It all depends on your experience and your personality.
Besides, most of the time when someone says someone is mature or “grown up” they actually mean they’re boring.
As for the young teenage girls who go around with six inch of make up and saying things like “totes amazeballs” who people say are growing up too fast, they’re not really are they? They’re just kind of tragic.
At the end of the day there’s nothing wrong with a good water fight, giggling over innuendo or doing things you always regretted not doing when you were younger. Surely it’s more mature to admit you made a mistake and try and fix it rather than just plodding along pouring money into bricks and mortar?
So to the psychologists who have decided everybody grows up at 25, the question I ask is does anyone really ever grow up at all, or do they just learn to behave in the way society demands they do?
Don’t worry about acting like an adult or acting like a child. It’s more important that you just live how you were meant to and don’t put on an act at all. As my good friend Will wrote “all the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players”. So play.
Personally, I wouldn’t want my personality to be described using a word that is also used to describe strong cheese anyway.